Primary emotions are innate emotions and can be found in any population, so they are called primary or universal.
Secondary emotions, on the other hand, are those that originate from the combination of primary emotions and develop with the growth of the individual and with social interaction.
We constantly experience many emotions, a wide range, which varies from positive to negative.
Primary or basic emotions are:
1. anger, generated by the frustration that can manifest itself through aggression;
2. fear, emotion dominated by instinct that has as its objective the survival of the subject to a dangerous situation;
3. sadness, originates as a result of a loss or a goal not achieved;
4. joy, the positive state of mind of those who consider all their desires satisfied;
5. surprise, originates from an unexpected event, followed by fear or joy;
6. contempt, sentiment and attitude of total lack of esteem and disdained refusal to people or things, considered devoid of moral or intellectual dignity;
7. disgust, repulsive response characterized by a specific facial expression.
These are innate emotions and are found in any population, so they are defined primary or universal. Secondary emotions, on the other hand, are those that originate from the combination of primary emotions and develop with the growth of the individual and with social interaction.
– joy, feeling of full and lively satisfaction of the soul;
– envy, emotional state in which a subject feels a strong desire to have what the other possesses;
– shame, emotional reaction that results from the transgression of social rules;
– anxiety, emotional reaction due to the prefiguration of a hypothetical, future and distant danger;
– resignation, disposition of mind of those who patiently accept a pain, a misfortune;
– jealousy, emotional state that derives from the fear of losing something that already belongs to the subject;
– hope, tendency to believe that phenomena or events are manageable and controllable and therefore can be addressed to results hoped for as better;
– forgiveness, substitution of the negative emotions that follow a perceived offense (eg anger, fear) with positive emotions (eg empathy, compassion);
– offense, a moral damage that is brought to a person with deeds or words;
– nostalgia, a state of malaise caused by a sharp desire for a distant place, a thing or an absent or lost person, a finite situation that one would like to relive;
– remorse, state of punishment or psychological disturbance experienced by those who believe they have behaved in ways contrary to their moral code;
– disappointment, a mood of sadness caused by the observation that the expectations, the hopes cultivated have not been reflected in reality.
Thus, the latter are more complex emotions and need more external elements or heterogeneous thoughts to be activated.
There are laws according to which emotions function.
_ The first law; emotions always exist. Emotion is one of the energies that create our existence.
Why do small children listen to us? They listen to us emotionally, nothing more.
If you want the child to pay attention to you, analyze what emotions you show him. Your lectures on the purity of your hands, for example, as a rule, “fly into one ear, and out from another.”
But if you have demonstrated emotions, this the mind seizes and seals.
_ The second law; emotions are accumulated and remembered.
If you and the child not discuss, and he not understand you, and not digest an emotion, it’s not despairing is just postponed.
When you showed it to him again, he will rebel again.
You have to know that the mind is like a library. And in this library, there are departments that are overflowed. Those that went and went through experiences.
And the child is very vulnerable because he does not have a buddy (Mind).
The fire of Reason is a function of transformation, that is not yet developed in the child. And that’s why he lives exclusively with his mind.
A child has an exceptionally emotional mind, which remembers automatically and cannot digest.
Moreover, he is not yet so developed or his ego is not ripe to say that he has another point of view. This he will say later.
Scandals will begin from the moment when the child will have his own point of view. And he himself will decide whether to grieve or decide that the parent is out of his mind.
At this point, it will come out from under your magical influence. But until this time, you are magically influencing it, how you were influenced magically at your time.
Moreover, do not forget about the authority of the parent on a small child, who is present by default. All actions of the parent are automatically correct.
If your mother constantly showed such an emotion: “Oh my God, no mind or fantasy, well, a copy of the papa. What will happen to you, I do not know at all, ” – then you believe in it.
You think, if the native mother, the closest person, says so about me, then this is true. In life, you will all do under the subconscious impact of this impression.
Why do you and I have such a distrust of each other?
Often these are emotions that were imprinted in childhood. All these emotions that accumulated, went to our subconscious.
We are already adults and do not really feel these emotions.
But not lived in childhood emotions are like a bomb with an already running clockwork.
Finally, we met with our beloved, and he/she begins remotely reminding us of the feelings that we experienced and did not digest in childhood.
It is like a rubber band, which is pulled, stretched and released at a certain moment.
And now all that you have experienced once and not digested, you begin to address to this person. You have a huge claim, sometimes terrible insult, expectations etc.
Why can not we forgive each other, because we can not forgive the past.
Moreover, we still do not realize this.
We think that this man is to blame.
Think, sincerely, how much you have really spent time with this person.
You will find out that in this period of communication it is not capable of causing you such an insult.
We need to understand that these people have shown us those closed closets that we have in our mind, from our childhood.
Often our emotions are addressed to the wrong person.
This, the so-called portable feelings.
Those that we experienced when we were a small child.
And now, when we already are adults, they are rolling on us with new strength.
99% of offenses are portable feelings.
In fact, there are few real grievances, and basically the real grievances we tend to solve. Those. We have some real grievances, but one way or another we want to clarify them, we have a desire to clarify.
But when these are portable feelings, we feel that it is impossible to clarify, correct, we have a feeling of despair and helplessness, just the feelings that we experienced when we were small.
In childhood, few people heard us, few were interested in us for real.
Mostly we were just told: “Shut up, stop immediately!”
It is this peculiarity of portable feelings that is the reason that we prefer to step aside, take offense, become angry.
We are stuck in this emotion, exclusively in a childlike state. And this means that our feelings were addressed to someone from our childhood.
“We spend the first year of a child’s life teaching it to walk and talk and the rest of its life to shut up and sit down. There’s something wrong there.”
― Neil deGrasse Tyson