Everyone hears from their childhood about the need to set goals for themselves. This council has become so familiar that it is no longer perceived as useful. And the need for goal-setting over time loses for the majority its relevance.
And really, why set goals?
Is the goal able to make our life better, and ourselves – at least a little happier?
American writer Chuck Palahniuk once said: “If you don’t know what you want you end up with a lot you don’t.”
A clear understanding of what we really need allows us to take concrete steps to get what we want.
Life, in which there are goals, becomes meaningful and full. And achievements, even the most modest ones, bring moral satisfaction and tangible material fruits.
In fact, any person sets himself the goals. Many people like to speculate about what they would like to have, what to change in their environment and in themselves.
Some people are not satisfied with their physical condition, others would like to devote more time to close people and favorite pursuits, while others dream of a career and material well-being.
But at the same time, few take the liberty of clearly articulating what exactly they want, what to do, and what ways to choose to achieve the desired result.
Often people are simply afraid to make plans and set themselves clearly formulated tasks.
You know the saying: “If you want to make God laugh, tell him about your plans.” Probably, it was invented by an incorrigible fatalist, not accustomed to being responsible for himself and his life.
Indeed, why should we plan and dream, when all life depends on the circumstances in which we find ourselves, full of obstacles and difficulties?
A much easier way out seems to be simply waiting for something good to happen. But this good, for some reason “happens” extremely rarely.
And as a result – a sea of negative emotions and discontent with own destiny.
But a person who sets clear goals for himself live differently: he perceives difficulties and obstacles on his way to his dream not as a fatal bad luck, but as interesting tasks that really solve and move on.
His life is filled with vivid impressions, he is proud of himself and his achievements. From passive extras, he turns into a director and builder of his own destiny.
So what is the goal?
The goal is the end result to which you aspire. Most often the goal stems from a dream or an inspired desire.
But one inspiration is not enough, labor is also needed.
You can say this: the goal = desire + the conscious decision to act.
Having set a goal, you should determine the tasks by which you will come to your plan.
The goal answers the question “WHAT needs to be done?”
The tasks prompt, HOW to achieve the desired result.
At the same time, immediately try to understand whether this is your goal, or imposed on you from outside – friends, relatives, management and so on.
In our society, the volume of contacts with other people is so great that it is difficult to distinguish what we ourselves want to do, from what society imposes on us.
Therefore, often more than half of the time is spent on things that are not important for us, but urgent and important for others.
This does not mean that we should give up helping other people. But it is important to realize that these are not your tasks, and you are doing them, willingly putting off your own affairs for later.
There are some factors that make the difference in determining the achievement of one goal over another. At the same time, there are common problems related to this theme.
Before going into the practical part is better to try and to identify yourself with the one that is closest to your current situation:
_ No goal – If you have no objective worthy of the name, neither short nor long-term, you are at the mercy of events. The ups and downs (especially the latter) are followed by a whirling rhythm.
With the change often in the mood, you are often apathetic and unmotivated.
Tip: Start by finding goals in line with your passions.
_ Few goals – Even when you have few goals you find yourself often apathetic and unmotivated. Even more so if we are talking about goals that are not very big and, above all, not in line with your passions.
Tip: Privilege the goals that motivate you the most and those that are potentially useful or necessary.
_ Too many goals – In this case, the risk is to disperse your energies and not be able to focus sufficiently on what is really important to you.
Tip: Organize them by priority and start working on the most important ones.
Now it is not important which category you belong to. This premise should serve you to become aware of your current condition and the risks related to it.
The 3 tips you read represent the starting point from which to set up a path of personal growth and development based on certain principles to be applied rigorously when you go to “dissect” the individual objectives.
We do not realize all of our goals – and often it’s not laziness and weakness, but an inability to correctly formulate tasks and determine priorities.
How to start?
_ Start by finding goals in line with your passions.
Is better to examine not more than five goals, because, as we already know, consciousness is not capable of effectively coping with excess information.
It is easy for it to concentrate simultaneously only on several tasks.
_ Privilege the goals that motivate you the most and those that are potentially useful or necessary.
This can be done by analyzing all areas of your life: work, finances, physical health, mental/emotional state, family, participation in the life of society – so that your list is complete.
When you have your goals to focus on, it’s time to answer the important questions such as:
– What will give me the achievement of this goals?
– What will I feel when I realize these goals? Self-confidence? Delight? Concentration? Inspiration? Strength?
– How will achieving these goals help me?
To this questions, there are no wrong answers, and the more of them you have, the better.
_ Organize them by priority and start working on the most important ones: the key goal.
Now you need to determine which of these goals is key for you. You may ask: “What is the key goal?”
Looking at your short list, you will probably notice that there are links between many goals; perhaps you will even understand that some compete with each other.
Almost in all cases, there is one of the goals, a stubborn pursuit of which, most likely, will help achieve the desired results in all areas.
There are several options. Sometimes achieving a key goal indirectly causes the implementation of the rest, almost automatically.
It happens that for a key goal you need to achieve others as an intermediate stage or an auxiliary tool.
And sometimes a key goal can affect your life so much that you will gain strength, confidence, and energy to crush any wall you come across.
_ Choose a realistic goal
Goals must necessarily be of the appropriate scale: requiring effort but at the same time achievable from your point of view.
To avoid clashing immediately with your conditioning, it is essential to choose a goal with a modest percentage of realism. The most common mistake is to set goals that are not in line with one’s own convictions.
If you have not yet changed your mental conditioning, at least for now you have to bring goals in harmony with them. The risk would be to create an inner conflict that would inevitably lead to failure.
Sometimes is more appropriate to plan on a broader timescale, identifying sub-objectives and multi-directional ramifications in order to undertake more roads leading to the ambitious goal.
Write your goal on paper – You can also do it on your PC but I suggest you the “classic” method. The writing action has great power at a deep level because it relates to an activity that, well or badly, we have all played, since we were young. Remember when the teacher made you do the “pages” to store letters, numbers, and words?
The coordinated work of the eyes, hands, and brain raises the choice and formulation of goals to a qualitatively new level. So, fix the goals with a pen on paper, and not just in the mind.
What you write should be meaningful to you. These goals are yours and draw more, so be sure to fix what you really want to achieve.
The specificity is necessary.
Re-read every day everything you wrote. Make it a habit.
_ Plan your goal over time
Make an estimate of the time to be spent on achieving your goal. Do it realistically, considering the resources you need and, among these, the ones you have and the ones you need to get yourself.
If necessary, subdivide your goal into small steps. The need will be to evaluate yourself considering the magnitude of the objective you have set yourself.
Place any stages on specific dates. You must know exactly when it starts and when each step ends. Be precise and try to respect the deadlines you have given yourself.
Avoid procrastination as much as possible because it is the main obstacle to your realization.
_ Visualize it mentally
The power of your subconscious is billions of times greater than consciousness.
It thinks and works in many ways differently. As it has been said one important key to the subconscious mind is to understand that it operates on images.
Displaying it in the smallest details you will be able to find details that you had missed in the initial description. Live it mentally and write down the feelings you feel. This step will strengthen your emotional intelligence and make you even more focused.
To succeed you will deliberately have to build some automatic behavior patterns that will become a binding to your goals.
Why is it necessary?
Because most of your thoughts have become a habit for you. Actions are determined by thoughts, and many of them – at work, in health, finance – are carried out by force of habit.
They are brought to automatism.
Keep track of your morning activities for a few days, and, perhaps, for you, it will come as a surprise as one day looks like another.
So, you already have automatic behavior models; I advise some time to perform them consciously and then replace them with new ones. During the day there are two periods when this will have to be done.
The first is as soon as you wake up in the morning. The first hour – more precisely, the first few minutes – is a very good time to program your brain for success.
At this time, he goes from sleep to wakefulness, and his waves are so configured that your subconscious mind is extremely receptive to the “seeds of thoughts” that you sow.
Have you noticed how the first few minutes after awakening can set the tone for the whole day? Have you ever got up on the wrong foot? Be careful, and you will begin to see practical links between the effective beginning of the morning and your results throughout the day.
Most miss this opportunity: in the morning we are either nervous on different occasions, or we move as if in a fog, not fully understanding what is happening.
But many successful people purposefully use the beginning of the day, in order to adjust their minds, focus on their dreams and goals.
The second period when you need to program yourself is the last few minutes of your day. They are important in many ways for the same reasons as the first hour of wakefulness: this is a transitional phase for the brain.
During the last hour before going to bed, find the opportunity to repeat your goals and some affirmations once again in the form of images, and then express gratitude for all the good things that happened during the day.
At this point, we must add the last step, the classic one, the one that crowns the growth process and favors the materialization of the result.
It can be translated as follows: